Category: Loneliness

How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

When you're already feeling painfully low and grief-stricken, people's "helpful" comments can feel like a slap in the face, can't they Even well-meaning advice can hurt. I remember a long conversation with a friend called Rob*, in the early days of my illness

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Part 2 — How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

Curious to see how I not-so-perfectly dealt with Rob’s “helpful” pep-talk? You might learn a thing or two from my mistakes! The story begins here, in Part 1, in case you missed it. Putting on new clothes When my autoimmune symptoms are flaring, I find it really hard to get dressed. The discomfort, bordering on …

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Satisfaction – Goal setting #5

Does your health allow for busyness, or is regular resting necessary? If so, do you miss being busy?

I really miss being busy. I find busyness intoxicating, and I find resting very boring. For me, one of the hardest things about being housebound with debilitating fatigue is the lack of busyness. I yearn to feel accomplished and self-sufficient.

Ah... Isn't that at the heart of it? Self-sufficiency.

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Church #2 – When Jesus was Abandoned

Refocusing on Jesus always seems to ground me when frustrations about church crop up, or when relationships with fellow Christians become strained. In this post, I'm focusing on Jesus' experiences of grief and abandonment.

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Church #1 – When You Feel Abandoned

This series is about the nitty-gritty of church involvement for people living with chronic illnesses – physical and/or mental. I hope my words will comfort and encourage you. Is it worth the effort?? When I was heavily weighed down by grief, in the early days of my illness, church was almost unbearable for me. A …

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Fruitful #4: What does God think of you?

In Fruitful #3 we asked, Is our view of love distinct?. Today we’re looking at God’s love and asking: Are we building our identity on what God thinks of us? A free printable Bible study is included at the end, to help you put into practice today’s ideas. I pray that Fruitful #4 will bear …

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“Build a Bridge” Interview Series

I don’t know if you’re familiar with the expression, build a bridge. It’s a way of “encouraging” someone to move on from their problems. Well, I’m not using the expression in its usual sense. Fruitful Today’s Build a Bridge project is about walking over the bridge with a grieving person, rather than standing back while …

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“Drowning” poem – Jesus, our Rock (Matt 7:24-25)

The story behind this poem I wrote this poem during a period of intense grief and loneliness, in my mid-twenties. You know the type of crying you do when you’re completely dejected? Curled up in the foetal position on your bed, with the covers pulled up over your head, just trying to get some relief …

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