Category: Loneliness

When Christmas Makes You Sad

Christmas is something I really look forward to these days! But it wasn’t always that way. For many years I felt a sense of dread and despair whenever I even thought about family occasions like Christmas Day. If Christmas is a joyful time for you, that’s wonderful! I’m sharing the poem, below, to give you …

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How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

When you're already feeling painfully low and grief-stricken, people's "helpful" comments can feel like a slap in the face, can't they Even well-meaning advice can hurt. I remember a long conversation with a friend called Rob*, in the early days of my illness

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Church #2 – When Jesus was Abandoned

Refocusing on Jesus always seems to ground me when frustrations about church crop up, or when relationships with fellow Christians become strained. In this post, I'm focusing on Jesus' experiences of grief and abandonment.

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Church #1 – When You Feel Abandoned

This series is about the nitty-gritty of church involvement for people living with chronic illnesses – physical and/or mental. I hope my words will comfort and encourage you. Is it worth the effort?? When I was heavily weighed down by grief, in the early days of my illness, church was almost unbearable for me. A …

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Fruitful #4: What does God think of you?

In Fruitful #3 we asked, Is our view of love distinct?. Today we’re looking at God’s love and asking: Are we building our identity on what God thinks of us? A free printable Bible study is included at the end, to help you put into practice today’s ideas. I pray that Fruitful #4 will bear …

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“Drowning” poem – Jesus, our Rock (Matt 7:24-25)

The story behind this poem I wrote this poem during a period of intense grief and loneliness, in my mid-twenties. You know the type of crying you do when you’re completely dejected? Curled up in the foetal position on your bed, with the covers pulled up over your head, just trying to get some relief …

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