Category: Coping with Church

How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

When you're already feeling painfully low and grief-stricken, people's "helpful" comments can feel like a slap in the face, can't they Even well-meaning advice can hurt. I remember a long conversation with a friend called Rob*, in the early days of my illness

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Part 2 — How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

Curious to see how I not-so-perfectly dealt with Rob’s “helpful” pep-talk? You might learn a thing or two from my mistakes! The story begins here, in Part 1, in case you missed it. Putting on new clothes When my autoimmune symptoms are flaring, I find it really hard to get dressed. The discomfort, bordering on …

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Carole’s Church Story

Today we’re meeting Carole. She’s 69 years old and has a bunch of chronic illnesses that require daily management. She first got sick at the age of 31, which means she has been unwell for nearly 40 years. Can you imagine that?!   Carole, welcome to our Build a Bridge Interview Series! It’s an honour …

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Church #2 – When Jesus was Abandoned

Refocusing on Jesus always seems to ground me when frustrations about church crop up, or when relationships with fellow Christians become strained. In this post, I'm focusing on Jesus' experiences of grief and abandonment.

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Church #1 – When You Feel Abandoned

This series is about the nitty-gritty of church involvement for people living with chronic illnesses – physical and/or mental. I hope my words will comfort and encourage you. Is it worth the effort?? When I was heavily weighed down by grief, in the early days of my illness, church was almost unbearable for me. A …

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Hosea’s Story – Multiple Myeloma

Introducing Hosea! Age: 66 Chronic Illness: I’m hampered by Multiple Myeloma, a cancer of the blood plasma cells. I was diagnosed sixteen years ago, and by the grace of God, I’ve been a survivor since then. There is no cure for Myeloma, and there is always a risk that it will return in full bloom. …

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Ally’s Story – JHS, POTS

Introducing Ally! This might surprise you, but Ally is only 17 years old… That’s right! How’s that for crushing the stereotypes? It’s easy to assume that chronic illness is just an “old person” thing, but many young people manage ongoing and debilitating health conditions too. Let’s hear from one of them now…    Ally’s church …

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Kristy’s Story – ME/CFS

Introducing Kristy! Age: 38 Chronic illness: I’ve had a severe case of ME/CFS for almost 4 years For how long have you been a Christian? I’ve believed in God my whole life; but I’d say age 14 was a turning point for me, in terms of calling the faith my own and making a personal …

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“Build a Bridge” Interview Series

I don’t know if you’re familiar with the expression, build a bridge. It’s a way of “encouraging” someone to move on from their problems. Well, I’m not using the expression in its usual sense. Fruitful Today’s Build a Bridge project is about walking over the bridge with a grieving person, rather than standing back while …

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