Category: Encouragement

Part 2 — How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

Curious to see how I not-so-perfectly dealt with Rob’s “helpful” pep-talk? You might learn a thing or two from my mistakes! The story begins here, in Part 1, in case you missed it. Putting on new clothes When my autoimmune symptoms are flaring, I find it really hard to get dressed. The discomfort, bordering on …

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Groaning: How to Take Your Grief to Jesus {Printable}

We all have knee-jerk reactions to suffering. My knee-jerk reaction? I tend to go numb. I find it really hard to pray. After a while, a niggling sense of shame at the poor state of my prayer life may creep in… I should be worshiping God and being positive despite my circumstances! Why can’t I …

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Satisfaction – Goal setting #5

Does your health allow for busyness, or is regular resting necessary? If so, do you miss being busy?

I really miss being busy. I find busyness intoxicating, and I find resting very boring. For me, one of the hardest things about being housebound with debilitating fatigue is the lack of busyness. I yearn to feel accomplished and self-sufficient.

Ah... Isn't that at the heart of it? Self-sufficiency.

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Frustration – Goal Setting #2

Frustration is part of the chronic illness package. Living with an uncooperative body and/or mind is not easy. Has your level of frustration lessened or increased over the years – or does it fluctuate? I thought mine was lessening, but after my Forgettable New Year’s Eve I’d say it fluctuates…

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Church #2 – When Jesus was Abandoned

Refocusing on Jesus always seems to ground me when frustrations about church crop up, or when relationships with fellow Christians become strained. In this post, I'm focusing on Jesus' experiences of grief and abandonment.

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Waiting – How to Stand “Strong”

I’ve been doing a lot of waiting lately… Waiting for the next doctor’s appointment. Waiting on pathology results. Waiting to see if new treatments will work. Most days I’m ok with the waiting. But occasionally a wave of “what-ifs” makes me wobble and topple into a teary heap. Even when we’re trying our best to …

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Hope #1 – When Hope Hurts (2 Cor 1:8-10)

Last month I met with a new specialist. What a turbulent time it’s been! We’ve embarked on a new treatment path – possibly a dwindling dead end; possibly a tree-lined avenue with heady horizons of restored health. New insights have been offered. New tests have been ordered. New treatments are being trialed – which may …

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Fruitful #4: What does God think of you?

In Fruitful #3 we asked, Is our view of love distinct?. Today we’re looking at God’s love and asking: Are we building our identity on what God thinks of us? A free printable Bible study is included at the end, to help you put into practice today’s ideas. I pray that Fruitful #4 will bear …

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“Build a Bridge” Interview Series

I don’t know if you’re familiar with the expression, build a bridge. It’s a way of “encouraging” someone to move on from their problems. Well, I’m not using the expression in its usual sense. Fruitful Today’s Build a Bridge project is about walking over the bridge with a grieving person, rather than standing back while …

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Days Like This #1 (Luke 12:13-34)

I’m in the middle of a flare. I really struggle on days like this. I’m sure you know how it feels! Most of the time my symptoms are under control – I carefully pace my activity; I rest regularly; I do what my doctors have instructed in order to manage my chronic condition. But sometimes …

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