Category: Grief

When Thankfulness Doesn’t Help you Feel Better

This is the whole Thankfulness Mini-Series in one post. It’s a 10-minute read. If you prefer to read shorter posts, I understand: brain fog is real! I’ve divided this longish post into three shorter sections, which you can find here.  .. .. I’m a big believer in thankfulness. It’s important and beneficial to count your …

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Part 2 — How to Deal with Judgy Advice (Fruitful #5)

Curious to see how I not-so-perfectly dealt with Rob’s “helpful” pep-talk? You might learn a thing or two from my mistakes! The story begins here, in Part 1, in case you missed it. Putting on new clothes When my autoimmune symptoms are flaring, I find it really hard to get dressed. The discomfort, bordering on …

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Groaning: How to Take Your Grief to Jesus {Printable}

We all have knee-jerk reactions to suffering. My knee-jerk reaction? I tend to go numb. I find it really hard to pray. After a while, a niggling sense of shame at the poor state of my prayer life may creep in… I should be worshiping God and being positive despite my circumstances! Why can’t I …

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Ecclesiastes – Goal Setting #4

The Goal Setting Mini-Series goes a step deeper than the usual “how to” list: How can we set goals that honour God and don’t induce panic attacks? Post #3 is here in case you missed it. Fireworks and traditions Aren’t fireworks displays just spectacular? Even on TV I find them mesmerising. I live in Sydney, …

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Church #1 – When You Feel Abandoned

This series is about the nitty-gritty of church involvement for people living with chronic illnesses – physical and/or mental. I hope my words will comfort and encourage you. Is it worth the effort?? When I was heavily weighed down by grief, in the early days of my illness, church was almost unbearable for me. A …

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The Terrible Trio of Grief (Psalm 23)

Depression and anxiety often to go hand-in-hand with grief, particularly in the early days after diagnosis (or other traumatic life event). It's normal to experience depression when we're grieving...I've lost so much! Who am I now?? I'm such a burden...

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“Drowning” poem – Jesus, our Rock (Matt 7:24-25)

The story behind this poem I wrote this poem during a period of intense grief and loneliness, in my mid-twenties. You know the type of crying you do when you’re completely dejected? Curled up in the foetal position on your bed, with the covers pulled up over your head, just trying to get some relief …

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Fruitful #1: When You Miss Feeling Useful {Printable}

Fruitful #1 looks at how God, the gardener of your soul, can masterfully work within the bleakest seasons of your life. No longer “useful”… What was the highest emotional hurdle for you, when learning to live with your chronic illness? For me, it was not feeling useful anymore. About two years into my illness I …

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Why ‘Sick Mummies’ Don’t Need to Feel Guilty

Mummy guilt… I think we’ve all felt it at some point! Mothers with chronic illnesses may have an extra layer of Mummy Guilt. We feel guilty about our illness and wonder how it might be affecting our children’s well-being. This Mother’s Day, I want to encourage sick mummies to remember: we still have a lot …

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